- You've reached the "terrific twos!" This is an exciting year!
- Your little one is learning to really communicate. By two, most children will have two-word sentences such as "Mommy up." Children still exhibit a wide range of development in language. Some toddlers will have long sentences. Some are just starting to speak. Most two-year olds will have fifty words or more. They are able to understand more than they can express.
- This is a year of "mine," "I do it," and "No!" It is normal and healthy for two-year olds to exert their will and to want things their way. They are starting to realize that they are separate people. However, this new independence sometimes makes a two-year old scared; when this happens, children may become clingy and whiny.
- Tantrums are normal. Children may get frustrated when they can't have things their way, or if they are tired, hungry, and over-stimulated. The best thing to do with a tantrum is to ignore it as much as you can. Pay attention to whether your child is hungry or tired, and realize when your child has reached his/her limit and needs some down time.
- This is a time to set limits. Children need to know and learn limits; they feel safer if limits are consistent and clear. Your two-year old may have a fit when you say "No" – that is normal. Save your "No" for the important things. In other situations, distract or remove your child from a tempting situation.
- Two-year olds have unlimited energy. This is normal and not a sign of hyperactivity. They often need to do a lot of big motor activity like running, climbing, and jumping. Get outside and allow your child to play.
- A big issue for this age is toilet training. In our culture, we tend to train children once they are verbal enough to understand the concept of "holding" their urine or feces. When your child can understand what it means to "hold it in," get a children's toilet seat and some fun books about going to the "potty." Your child will give you signs when he/she is ready. Children may run and hide when they are "pooping" or they may come to you and say "pee pee," etc. Watch for signs that your child is interested and ready to begin toilet training.
- Limit TV and videos. Although most children are fascinated with TV, watching TV has no proven benefit and many negative factors. Many children's videos can be scary for young children. Limit watching TV and video to less than one hour a day. Your child will benefit from playing, looking at books, and listening to stories and music instead of passively watching TV. Too much passive time watching TV can contribute to childhood obesity.
Next visit: when your child is three years old.